Q. My husband becomes violent whenever he is drunk. Should I see his violence as empty and stay married, or get divorced?

Q. My husband becomes violent whenever he is drunk. Should I see his violence as empty and stay married, or get divorced?

A. You seem to think that he who sees everything as empty ought to act or live in a set way such as ‘never divorce’. Your question is like ‘Which should he who sees everything as empty like better, coffee or tea?’ To see things as empty is one thing and whether to get divorced or not is another.

When everything is empty, both staying married and getting divorced are empty and neutral. Then, one is never preferable to the other. Which is preferable depends on your view. Seeing things as empty means to be free to make a choice and willing to accept the result of the choice without any regret because you know that not only your choice, but also the result of your choice is empty.

Whatever decision you may make, each moment of your life is a finish and a new start at the same time. Making a beautiful finish is making a nice start. You should not damage the beautiful moment of love that you had with him.

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